tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-817953982491612075.post5546594328422283258..comments2024-03-28T07:23:26.192+00:00Comments on Workin' it Out: Other People's FeelingsPlumPetalshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16879841900594034234noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-817953982491612075.post-17970271754006814862012-08-21T14:34:12.154+01:002012-08-21T14:34:12.154+01:00Coming from an Italian heritage, I can certainly u...Coming from an Italian heritage, I can certainly understand the pressure from family to eat the food that they have prepared. Food is love, right? For me, my family takes great pride in making the food that their great grandmothers made and to not eat it is extremely offensive to them. I hate to hurt their feelings and not eat. Often, if it's a family event I just suck it up and eat off plan. I give you a ton of credit for refusing the invites, especially knowing that people would not be happy. That shows courage & dedication on your part. The right decision is often not the easy one, is it?Jennhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14535420481037281507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-817953982491612075.post-39996159679568401152012-08-21T07:41:50.367+01:002012-08-21T07:41:50.367+01:00This is a tough one! I know in my family too, food...This is a tough one! I know in my family too, food plays such a huge role in our family gatherings, and too often it is not healthy choices. I have a cousin who is a vegan, though, so I tell myself if she can do it, so can I - so we eat as healthy as we can, although I do eat meat which makes it a little easier.<br /><br />Good for you for making he best choice for your health.Krishttp://www.tryingtotri.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-817953982491612075.post-60972636521987339992012-08-20T21:02:38.332+01:002012-08-20T21:02:38.332+01:00That's such a tough situation; when the food p...That's such a tough situation; when the food pushers are people we honestly love who are pushing food that we honestly appreciate the preparation and emotions behind it...I think you're better off not attending any festivities at all than attending and trying to limit your intake, or attending one dinner and having everyone else you declined be upset with you. It's very primitive, isn't it, how we all -- cultures across the world -- overeat in times of happiness (particularly after religious fasting periods, of course) as if we were all still hunter-gatherers who might live in fear of failed crops and decreased herds; who act like there isn't a supermarket with 60,000 items on the shelves a five minute drive away (for me, at least). And if your family and friends don't understand/respect what you're doing and why you won't partake in the gluttony you risk alienation and hurt feelings. I think you're doing the right thing, for what it's worth!Normahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11949876371473945014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-817953982491612075.post-60902893691374346982012-08-20T19:29:57.134+01:002012-08-20T19:29:57.134+01:00I admire your willingness to put aside socializing...I admire your willingness to put aside socializing for the sake of your health. That would be very hard for me to do - but i do notice that I have been less social this summer and it has benefited me and my waistline!<br />It stinks that family and friends cannot understand that by not eating their food, you are not being offensive - but only trying to do what is best for you. I like your idea of having them meet on your turf so that you can control what is served. Good thinking!Rochellehttp://buttfatblog.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.com