Friday, June 29, 2012

The Dress and The Shoes

A few posts ago I mentioned that one of my best friends is getting married in October. What I didn't mention is that I already have a dress for it. I actually bought the dress a few months ago in London. I loved it as soon as I saw it - I looked at the dress, found my size, and tried it on. Hmmmm it didn't quite fit, but I did a big fashion no-no and bought it anyway with the hope that one day I'll fit into it right.

The dress is made of silk, and if you know silk, you know that there is absolutely no give to the material and it shows everything. So even though technically the dress is in my size (I actually have a few dresses a size smaller than this one), it doesn't fit me the way I'd like it to - y'know, the way that doesn't require you to stay standing with your gut completely sucked in for the entire night. 

This dress is my goal dress for the October wedding. I tried it on this morning to serve as a reminder of how much further I have to go. It's a good thing I did. It's the motivation that I needed to really get my focus back. 

Due to some paperwork error, my parents did not leave Kuwait today. However, all their stuff has already been shipped off and they have to give up their apartment {such drama, I can't even explain the stress we're all under right now} - anyway, this means that my parents will be staying with us for the next 5-7 days. It all depends on when they get their final paperwork and nobody really knows when that's going to happen! So, this throws another spanner in the works. I was hoping to be back into my regular routine by Saturday, but now I'll have to make some more adjustments. I now need to plan a menu and cook for 4 people instead of just me and D. I'm really stressing out about it. My parents will also be car-less, so that means that either I'll be running them around or they'll be stuck at home. I want them to feel comfortable and I want to give them attention too, but I also need to get to the gym. I have several, several workout hours to catch up on. I'm trying to stay positive and not let the derailment stress me out too much ... as a person who craves/needs routine, this is not exactly easy, but I'm going to make it work. 

I've spent the past hour planning our menu for the week. I've decided to stick to foods that I would normally cook. I am, however, worried about portion sizes. D & I have been very good and we've gotten used to smaller portions. I don't want my parents to think I'm starving them. At the same time, I don't want to cook too much and have extra food around the house.

I also don't want them to cook. My dad (a diabetic who doesn't take care of his diet at all - aarrrgghh!) loves to cook - but he also likes to use lots of oil, salt, cheese, etc. I'm terrified that he'll want to cook to take the pressure off of me.

I'm trying to handle this in 2 ways - 1st, I've written the menu for the week on the whiteboard in my kitchen. This way they can see that I've planned out the week's food. I've also printed out my own personal menu so that they realize that I don't want a sandwich with some chips for lunch but that I'd rather take the time to make a salad. My 2nd strategy is to limit the types of food in the house. We'll be well stocked with veggies and protein but I'll avoid most things unhealthy and fatty so the temptation won't be there. At the same time, I do want to have a few treats for my parents so that they can relax and enjoy themselves. I'm thinking of maybe having a fruit platter in the fridge for them to graze on during the day. We'll see.

Having to deal with the move has been great motivation to de-clutter the apartment and this week I started with my shoes. I'm a shoe addict (as I've mentioned before) and I really, really love my shoes. It breaks my heart to think of getting rid of any of them ... and that's why I've started with them first. If I can get rid of some of my shoes, then getting rid of other stuff should be much easier. 

Yesterday I selected 30 pairs of shoes to give away ... 

Today I added another 10!
I will probably take another look at my shoe closets and see if there are anymore that I'm willing to part with. Until then, I'm quite pleased with this start.


  1. All I can say is WOW on the shoes! :) I thought I owned a lot of shoes. I think I have maybe a dozen. lol Anyway. What size are they? Maybe I need more shoes.

    I can't wait to see you in that dress. silk wow again! I bet it is beautiful.

    And also good plan to deal with the added house guest. I know you will have a great week.

  2. I feel stressed out just reading about everything going on with you right now!!! I sure hope they sort the paper work out and your parents can head over to Kuwait.
    Totally amazed by the shoes, I don't even own that many shoes lol.
    I hope you get through this week smiling on the other side. Good luck!

  3. I can almost "hear" the stress in this post. So much going on for you. So, stop occasionally and breathe and stick to your plans.

    I've never had anything made from silk and would love to see your dress. I hope it fits perfectly even before October. :)

  4. Unexpected house guests -- Definitely not easy on your diet. You definitely sound like you are handling it really well.

    Don't you love de-cluttering! Makes room for new clutter! :D

  5. Hope things work out soon for your parents!!! I can hear the stress in you post!
    AND 40 PAIR OF SHOES!?!?!? WOW, thats a lot of shoes!! My husband thinks my 10 (and that is including my two pair of running shoes and flip flops) is a lot. Im sure someone will be very greatful to receive them!!
    I LOVE to declutter!! So freeing!!

  6. Crazy stress! I had my parents living with us for five weeks two summers ago while their house was being finished. I love them, but living with them? It was crazy. Menu planning is an excellent idea.

    30 pairs of shoes? Wow! I'm a shoe person, but I tend to fall out of love with them quickly and donate them as soon as I've lost interest!

  7. you shoe photo makes me tear up. When I moved from Idaho to NY, I had to get rid of 20 pairs. I hope they've found happy homes.

    I do not envy your parent stress. I hope it all goes well. It sounds like you have a pretty good game plan. You'll be in that dress for sure, keep going! :)


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